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Oct 17, 2018

Do you read the medical warning?

I for one do not read the medication warnings on perscription bottles. I would be going deaf or blind or suffering from pain in my big toe right away. Those warnings can turn a person into a hypochondriac.
  • Muscle pain or soreness
  • Leg pain
  • Muscle weakness
  • Generalized pain and weakness
  • Vomiting
  • Stomach cramps
  • Brown discolored urine caused by breakdown of muscles cells being passed in the urine
So, when I began taking a statin again after going to something else because of a bad reaction, I forgot to pay attention. For over two years now my legs have been hurting and affecting my balance. Why it finally dawned on me that I might be having a problem I just don’t know. Thankfully it did.

After two weeks of no statins I feel strong, well balanced and sane. I can get up for the table and walk across the room without staggering. I a grateful for that.

Now I have to tell my doctor! Darn.

Have you ever had that happen.

Oct 15, 2018

Getting Caught with my Snopes Down

See, the thing is all of those people that figure out a way to ruin a politician with misinformation can be liberal too. I was caught yesterday while roaming around on Facebook.

That share button is so tempting when you see words that you do not want to see ever. So, share I did. (Snopes info here.)

I woke up during the night wondering if that guy really did say that and who in the world is he. As I sat down with my green smoothies this morning, I began doing a Snopes check on the post. What did I find?

  1. The accusation was made several years ago so is out of date.
  2. The politician, a Republican, was forced to drop out of the race.
  3. His Facebook page was probably hacked.
  4. He claimed he did not say what was posted.
So, people don't do what I did without checking first. 

I shared a video of a man telling a young person to sit down when they questioned his statement that global warming was probably caused my bodies heat (said in jest I am sure.) That one did make me mad because politician forget that those young people are future voters and have parents. I will not take that one down.

So, what is the point? Be sure to check and be very careful. What we share usually involves REAL people that may be damaged by something that is untrue.

Oh, and I did take that post down...deleted I hope forever.

Have a wonderful day.

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Oct 14, 2018

More and More Like a Pregnant Mother

Am I getting ready to have a baby? Honestly, I am going through a period where I want to clean out that extra bedroom and put in bunk beds and make it beautiful for children.

It started with the closet in our dining room. That closet is our "basement" of sorts. We don't have a real one so it has to do.  In the past week I have gone through boxes of art supplies and laid my hand on all that I own. I love owning that stuff.

Then I opened a kitchen cabinet and began dragging out antique kitchen stuff that was gifted to my husband (of 80 years) when he was a little boy by a long dead sister. I just set it on the kitchen counter wondering...why?

Last night I was telling my daughter-in-law that we needed more beds.

What is going on here. I am not pregnant and there will be no baby. Do all people my age go through this need to get ready for heaven only knows what?

I wonder.

How is your life going?

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Oct 13, 2018

"Declan: Just put 'em the wash; they'll be grand." movie Leap Year or How-to Fix your iWatch

I did love that Leap Year movie. There were so many memorable quips to be quoted and a darling couple finding their way to love.

The joke line I loved best of all was "Just give 'em the wash, they'll be grand." In fact I suppose I have used that line more than any other I have ever heard from a movie.
I even washed the band.
Amazing!

Why? you ask. Well, I am the queen of spilled things. Once a waitress asked me how I could be standing beside the table in a booth before my full spilled glass of milked could run off the edge.

The answer was simple enough..."practice".  There you have it.

I cannot use bleach in the wash because a good "wash" will not take bleach marks out. In fact, most cleaning products contain bleach and I avoid those too.

But this last week I found out that giving my iWATCH, of all things, the wash can repair it. Did you know that?

My iWatch would not let me use what I called the stem on the side of the watch. I later found out that "stem" is not the right term. Apple calls that thing a "digital crown" ... I have no idea why. Searching for the totally wrong term on Google really does not work.

After a bit I notice that under all the recommendations that I call the Genius Bar at Apple or a certified Apple iWatch repair shop was a website that said "Fix your Apple iWatch yourself."  Could it be possible to fix it on my own? Really wouldn't that involve taking off the back and fiddling with whatever or whoever is inside there?

Reluctantly I found the website and read the article. Maybe I could save myself a trip to the Apple store and well, more money.

Imagine my surprise when I read the very short piece that explained that removing a leather watch band and holding the watch under warm tap water while turning the "digital crown" for about 15 second would cure the problem. Could it really be that easy?

People, you read it here...my watch is shiny, looking almost new and works perfectly. How wonderful is that. It seems that giving "'em' the wash" really does solve lots of problems.

Come to think of it the watch is waterproof and can be worn in the shower. Hmmmm, maybe I could wash it more than once every 2 years.

Have a wonderful day.

Oh, and Google, it would be nice if, "self help" appeared
closer to the top of the page. It may tick off you advertisers but your users would like it a lot..

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Oct 11, 2018

Stand Up and Be Counted...thoughts on President Trump and H.L. Mencken


I am sure I used this quote when George W. Bush was president and here I am again. H.L. Mencken foretold our future...again we have our "downright fool and a complete narcissistic moron".


I often wonder if we can understand what is wrong with our president and then forgive him for being...well...who he is. If he were not in charge of my world, maybe. But since he is, I am struggling to understand him so maybe I can defend myself when I stand up and be counted among my conservative friends. 

I honestly think he is a very sick man...clever, perhaps evil and very sick. In the style of others in our history that have manipulated people to do unforgivable things, he is leading even some very smart people down a path that I think they or generations to follow will greatly regret.
But what is it he is afflicted with? Is there a pattern that he follows that we can name and actually understand? I thought I knew but I needed to see it in print from a reliable source.

Then I asked Siri on my computer to see if she could help me confirm my belief.

The question was, "Siri can you tell what making yourself feel important by making someone else feel unimportant is called." She sent me over to Psychology Today to look up what a narcissistic personality disorder is. Wow, it fit like a glove.
The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.”
In an article called 5 Ways a Narcissists Compensates for their Inferiority  I found a road map to what we have all been experiencing on a daily basis that is truly driving us mad. See what you think.

The narcissist...
  1. Over inflates their sense of self by a) exaggerating with self flattering statements, b) often does this at the expense of others, c) in an effort to make others admire them.
  2. Reacts poorly to criticism with statements like "How dare they criticise me. They are a nobody (have no talent, are a bad actress, etc)."
  3. Are jealous of others. "How did they get picked. They must have cheated." 
  4. Uses manipulation to get what they want. a) gains advantage by causing the victim to feel inferior. b) bribes emotionally, c) uses deception (lies) d) acts helpless, e) is hateful and abusive.
  5. They are not able to face their real self so they do not see us and our concerns either.
I restated to my husband again today that this guy just makes me so mad EVERYDAY that it is not healthy. Oh my goodness, now I am doing research and reading a H.L. Mencken's biography. A little history always does a whole lot of good. I am often reassured by the fact that we have gone through this before and survived it. 

But, in this case, I am very afraid that we have never seen this in our country but that does not mean that another country's history has and is not being repeated here.

Sorry about this...but WHAT DO YOU SEE THAT I DON'T?

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p.s. I think we all have a little narcissist personality lurking inside. Thankfully, most of us can control it. When it becomes an illness, we need help.




Sep 22, 2018

Aging: When is a Rose a Rose?

Thank you to Walker Thornton. I loved the article Aging is Beautiful and you made me think.


From Graying and Grinning on a study done at University of California at San Diego. Read this if you think that being a long way down the aging path will be a depressing.
The linear nature of the findings was surprising,..., particularly in magnitude. The oldest cohort had mental health scores significantly better than the youngest cohort, though the former’s physical and cognitive function was measurably poorer than the latter’s.

I belong to a wonderful online group called Women of Midlife. It is a closed group but connects to a public website called Midlife Boulevard. This website is all about women of a certain age. Yes, I fit in while I go about doing what I do.

Recently Walker Thornton asked this question about how or if it was a good idea to talk about aging women

How do you feel about being called againg women? Or reading about 'how we age'...etc?
It didn't occur to me until I read this that women in their fifties or sixties would put off by topics with the tag #agingwomen. I do not see any diminishing of my personal life that makes me unhappy. AND yes, I do like to look beautiful and attractive to those around me. Not obsessed but still... I was puzzled.

The problem could be all about what we think others think of us. Insecurity in our sexuality and appearance can suck the life out of us. Overcoming that can be very hard but it is part of the journey. Or it could be the label...do we resist admitting that we are aging women? Maybe so.

I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt that said, "Don't worry about what others think of you because they don't." It is good to remember that...the world is not looking at us most of the time.

Daughter, me and Great-Granddaughter.
We look different but we are all
 girls! :)
I sort of felt #agingwoman was synonymous with taking a #womenslife'sjourney. Women in their twenties are aging women too...just in different ways. I don't think that a different word would change what we are saying..a rose is a rose.

No matter our age we share so many things and those of us that are further down the road should share our wisdom with those younger than ourselves. In the end, the thing that sets us apart is our appearance.

I have found personally that the fact that I am a late life aging woman has not been easy yet, I have always taken a lot of joy in my life. Now I have reached a place on the road where I am actually rejoice in my age. I really don't want to be or look younger! I like being, dare I say it, old. I like how I look and I like how I am treated. And I like that I don't worry about the men around me admiring a younger woman. Life is good.

I have been writing about the journey in various blogs since 2006-7. I really have not seen things change in the attitude toward older people. What I do see is the boomers making us more powerful. The older that age groups gets the benchmark for "old" will move up and up. Now those of us that are experienced aging women see the mark in the sand as 80 or older.  We will see how it evolves in the general population.

So, how do you feel? Where in the journey are you and what do you think is in store for you? Are you obsessed with your appearance and feel threatened when the man in your life looks at younger women? How is that affecting your quality of life? Be honest with yourself.

Have a wonderful day!

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Sep 15, 2018

Really, I don't Love all books! or What was that all about?

I do wax poetic about books I have read. A wonderful read deserves a good word. But let me be honest. I do not like all books and actually remember the bad ones almost better than the good ones.

I remember reading a book written by Thomas Wolfe when I was in college. You Can't Go Home Again was published posthumously in 1940. I might have checked it out of the college library at the end of a term to take home to read on vacation.

I struggled through the whole book and on the last page I turned to someone and acknowledged that I had no idea what I had just read. It might have been my age but still...I did not like the book and would not try to read it again. That man did love his words and used all of them but not necessarily in the right order. (All you intellectuals will find me wanting in that.)

Danielle Steele has always been a favorite of women. I remember the women in my real estate office talking about how they loved her books so I got one and tried. When I realized that I could tell where she stopped at the end of the day and then picked it up the next, I did not read anymore. Maybe they are better now but, no, I did not like it. I did not think she is a good writer,

Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoevskyy was not a favorite of mine but then I was not accustomed to Russian authors. I read this book at a very young age too so there is that. It was depressing.

Later I read Crime and Punishment by Dostoevsky and found it interesting but that first Russian book was no fun. I did not like it.

I later read War and Peace and loved every minute of it.

I did not like The Horse Whisperer by Nicholas Evans. I was the only person alive that thought it was not a good book. I thought that the author was forced to add 100 more pages to the end and his heart was just not in it. I did not like it.

I have a hard time reading Amy Tan.The last one, Valley of Amazement was not my favorite. It felt contrived I thought. I don't know why but she does not fit in my reading world. 

I have struggled through so many book that were simply over my head because I thought I should make myself read to learn. 

And in many case, I have learned to love the book and about the subject. A Beautiful Mind is one that simply fascinated me and I still think about. There was a lot of discussion on math theories and I liked that.

The book Cleopatra a Life by Stacy Schiff though was not one I would read again even though I was fascinated by and loved the book. The author loved remote words and I spent a lot of time looking up the meaning for those words. Actually it was kind of fun...hard but fun.

What book have you set down forever or read all the way through and the wondered "What was that all about?"

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