Image by Always at Home via FlickrDo you write letters to your grandchildren? Do they write back? Probably not. Some prodding and pushing may result in a thank you note...occasionally. But for the most part, a letter from a child is very, very special. Still writing to them is very important I think.
My friend received a letter from her grandchild the other day...the little girl is 5 years old. It told about a birthday party she had been too. There were cookies (cucees) with Easter Bunnies and there may have been a horse. We were a little unsure about that. But it didn't matter. We knew there were bubbles in her Easter basket and that she loved her Grandma Carole. The whole letter was a labor of love.
I loved the idea of a letter. So yesterday I wrote a letter to my granddaughter, Maddie. Maddie lives in China. In order for us to connect in some immediate way, I wrote the letter on my other blog. I told her what was happening in my life and asked her a question about a picture I posted on the blog. Sure enough I had a comment from Maddie today. It made me so happy that she would do that for me. Maddie is six.
There is no changing my grandchildren's behavior and I don't think that it would serve any useful purpose to demand what they don't want to give. On the other hand I do think that if I let them know how much a phone call or even a text message means, they will realize the importance of civility.
So, I will be the one writing letters. I think I may have come upon something that has been missing from our relationships...direct communication with the written word. What a shame. Hopefully, it is not too late.
Just a thought.