|Meelie, Age 4 or 5|
This year their youngest child is 8 (almost 9) going on 13 (like her sister). She is tall, physically strong and above all articulate and a great reader. But...she is 8 (almost 9)...not older, not younger, just 8 (almost 9)! Why do I say that even though she looks older?
Well, here is the deal. Her real age is related to her emotional development. She responds and truly acts like an 8 (almost 9) year old. She wants to say she is older but I am not buying it!
We had a big celebration because the oldest, Maddie, turned 13 this year and this is the first time we have ever celebrated a real birthday with her. Birthdays are on my mind.
So when I was sitting at breakfast in a restaurant when someone at a table near me was revealing that it was their birthday I paid attention.
Today is my birthday. I just turned 50, she said.
Well, another added, I am not 50 and I am so glad.
How old are you then? asked the first.
|Age 8 (almost 9)|
However, in the end it would not have mattered what the woman said. The answer would have been the same...Oh my goodness, you don't look XX years old!
That one just keeps coming up over and over...you don't look XX years old!
The person receiving the so called compliment really wants to ask how old they do look. Older? Younger? Shorter? What????
It was at that moment that I began to understand why people, especially women, lie about their age or simply never tell. It is just too hard to have the conversation and like me, no one ever knows what they should say.
I have heard my husband invite people to guess his age...that one came back and bit him and I have never heard him ask again.
See, in the end it doesn't really matter what the number is or how old you look. What does matter is how your emotional development is coming along. It matters what age you are in your mind or in Meelie's case, how long you can sit still!
In the end, we can fool some of the people part of the time but not all of the people all of the time. So, instead of trying to fool them (and ourselves), why not just keep them guessing? I think I am going to try it.
Do you reveal your age?