The article began with this paragraph:
From the moment our children are born till the day they leave the house and strike out on their own, it is amazing to observe how they grow, learn, and develop into adults. As a father of two daughters this process scares me to death, but I do want to have strong, independent, and creative daughters! A Father's Role in Raising Amazing DaughterI loved that turn of phrase strong, independent and creative daughters! Isn't that what we all wish for our children both boys and girls? But that is not the point...the point is how we go about doing that. How do parents raise daughter and sons that believe in themselves and believe that nothing is impossible. Can we help them believe that somethings are harder than other but nothing is impossible? That the impossible just takes a little longer?
This article cites Michael Mitchell and a piece he wrote called “50 Rules for Dads of Daughters”. We as grandparents and parents can learn so much from both of these men. I know we are suppose to be leaning toward a genderless society but sometimes it is worth our time to think about our children as individuals and as boys or girls. That is what I am asking you to do today. It does take a village to raise our children and the whole family can be involved and influential.
|Andrew and Amelia, age 4, getting ready |
to snorkel in the Viet Nam...a little afraid but prepared!
In parallel to these stories about the women were stories about the men, equally as amazing and heroic. These people too inspired through their honesty, courage and tenacity.
Think if I had never told my children the stories of their heritage...wouldn't that have been a shame. In the article he talks about how he "was brought up to both admire and respect the powerful role that women have had in my life and in the history of my family. It is that powerful and important presence that I wish to build up in my own daughters."
So, grandparents or aunts/uncles, tell your family stories. Tell about how individuals fixed what could not be fixed or had the courage to admit failure when the impossible turned out to be just that. Find ways to convey to your family how they can make their lives work in the face of loss or financial difficulty. Do it with stories that set an example. I don't think that my family was extraordinary in anyway. Everyone has stories to share and marvel at.
Strong parents do raise strong children. In the case of my granddaughters, I think that is very cool that they have grandmothers and aunts on both sides of their family to emulate. At the days end it will make them better people.
Be sure to read the article written by Andrew Torris and Michael Mitchell for some wonderful guidance on the role of a father in a daughter's life. We can all learn a lot from them.
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